The Original Talty Crew!
There are days I wake up and think: How did I get here?
Has it really been over 30 years since I graduated from high school? 40 years since I attended Camp Chingachgook? 28 years since I had my first child? 22 since I gave birth to my youngest? And when did my middle boy start working for his father because I can still picture the little bugger making a mess of my kitchen in 7th grade while he and his friend tried to put together a meal for class. Oy.
It seems like just yesterday that I was driving 3 kids around to various activities and feeding them sandwiches in the car for dinner.
And I’m ONLY 53. Of course, that used to sound old when I was in my twenties.
Now even 60 doesn’t seem that old, and yet…it does. I mean it’s right around the corner and at this moment it seems like entire chapters of my life went by in a blink of an eye.
I find myself staring at toddles and smiling and waving. I’m always telling the parents to enjoy their babies while they are young because one day you will open your eyes and they will be grown-ups living in their own spaces with the people they chose to be in their lives.
I’m very lucky in that I have a close relationship with all of my kids. Each one is uniquely different and each relationship is special. They have grown into fabulous people and I’m honored that I got to be their mother.
As they start new chapters in their lives, my husband and I have been working on the next set of chapters.
Empty nest is an interesting concept and I have to admit, I’m loving most of it. I love that I don’t have to wake to an alarm unless I want to. I enjoy being able to take a trip without having to set up daycare. I adore my visits with my adult kids and the fun we have together as a family…and that I’m not doing it day in and day out. I’m really loving getting to know my husband again. For 25 years our life was all about the children. Having children young affords us the opportunity to get a jump start on our “golden years”, hence the move to Florida, haha.
Getting older is a fact we can’t run from. We can color our hair and try to do things that make us youthful (and age sometimes is a number in our heads), but we are all going to age.
As I start this new chapter in life, I turn the page with excitement, not dread. These next few chapters will be the time of my life because while I might be on the downside of middle age, there is a lot of fun in rolling down that hill like a big kid in a candy store.
Life is short. Drink the wine. Eat the cake. Buy the shoes (or in my case, a new purse!)